mutual fun or support

when i make a relationship -- i unconsciously think of how i can help him with his weaker side ... i wish that this guy must be having some sad corners...bad life circumstances...that i can emotionally support...

probably because i can be more intimate with people only i can support their weaker sides that need emotional support..

when i think of befriending people for sharing joys then i repell back and my mind develops fears that i might not be able to increase his joy because i have incompetencies... i dont know how to get fun, and happiness, and so i wont be able to share and increase mutual fun which most friendships do.