social conventions

Heck people have so many particular ways of doing things, that I have to make to a huge effort to just be compliant and I usually fail.

I don’t know how other guys do it.

I guess I think a lot before doing anything, whereas other people are just "doing" and not thinking. And their "without thinking" has closely aligned with social conventions over time.

But for people like me who view social conventions with questions like "why" and "how did it originate" and "why does it continue to be", etc, social conventions become like a "thing" and do not become transparently actable. They have to be "acted."